{"id":207,"date":"2025-12-31T20:20:22","date_gmt":"2025-12-31T20:20:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/pressbooks.palomar.edu\/childguidance\/?post_type=back-matter&#038;p=207"},"modified":"2026-05-21T20:20:03","modified_gmt":"2026-05-21T20:20:03","slug":"identifying-communication-styles","status":"publish","type":"back-matter","link":"https:\/\/pressbooks.palomar.edu\/childguidance\/back-matter\/identifying-communication-styles\/","title":{"raw":"Assertive Communication Practice","rendered":"Assertive Communication Practice"},"content":{"raw":"<h2>Identifying Communication Styles<\/h2>\r\nFor each of the statements below, identify what communication style is being used: Aggressive, Passive, Passive-Aggressive, or Assertive.\r\n\r\nStatements:\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li style=\"font-weight: 400\">\"I guess I\u2019ll clean up all the toys again since no one else ever helps me.\"<\/li>\r\n \t<li style=\"font-weight: 400\">\"You always take too long to clean up! I don\u2019t know why I even bother asking you!\"<\/li>\r\n \t<li style=\"font-weight: 400\">\"I don\u2019t want to bother anyone, but I really wish someone would help me clean up.\"<\/li>\r\n \t<li style=\"font-weight: 400\">\"I\u2019d really appreciate your help cleaning up. If we work together, it\u2019ll go faster.\"<\/li>\r\n \t<li style=\"font-weight: 400\">\"Whatever, I don\u2019t even care if we do the activity. It\u2019s fine.\"<\/li>\r\n \t<li style=\"font-weight: 400\">\"You need to stop interrupting me right now!\"<\/li>\r\n \t<li style=\"font-weight: 400\">\"I understand you\u2019re excited, but I need you to listen so we can all hear the story.\"<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<h3>Becoming More Assertive<\/h3>\r\nIdentify non-assertive messages you experience, either those that are generated by you or that you hear from others around you.\r\n<div class=\"textbox textbox--exercises\"><header class=\"textbox__header\">\r\n<p class=\"textbox__title\">Exercises<\/p>\r\n\r\n<\/header>\r\n<div class=\"textbox__content\">\r\n\r\nFor each of these messages, see if you can transform them into more effective, assertive ones.\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>Aggressive: \"You never listen! Just stop talking and do what I say!\"\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>The assertive version might be \"I need you to listen so I can explain what to do next.\"<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Passive: \"Oh, it\u2019s fine. 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